Questions to Ask Yourself When Dating

Questions to ask when dating…..

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Accessibility to the potential dating pool is at an all time high. You cannot turn on the television without seeing an advertisement for a dating website; each promising that single someone the possibly of their happily ever after.

My “favorite” dating advertisement just so happens to have a very famous farm couple holding a pitch-fork. The talking cow is pretty nifty too.

Just the mention of the site makes me think of their catchy jingle-  Which I won’t be typing or it’ll be forever ingrained in our heads.

You can thank me later.

I’m not poking fun at people who use dating websites. But….

The message conveyed, intentionally or not, is not entirely accurate.

No matter how much you date, a significant other cannot fix you, fill you or complete you.

So, when you are looking to date, here are four questions to ask yourself:

  1.  Will this dating relationship honor my parents and respect their counsel? Maybe you can’t see it, but your parents love you and have your best interest at heart. If they are saying that he or she isn’t “right” for you, maybe you should listen!

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother’ which is the first commandment with promise.” Ephesians 6:1-2

   2.       Does my potential dating partner have a personal and growing relationship with the Lord? See that I said “growing.”  A personal relationship with Christ is ongoing, forever deepening and strengthening. Your relationship with Christ should stop because you find a partner.

“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers” 2 Corinthians 6:14

3.  Am I depending on the Lord to meet my needs of love and security? Why do you want to date? If it’s because you don’t want to be the one going stag anymore or because you need someone to make you feel loved, I want to encourage you to look a little closer at where you are in a relationship with God. Let Him woo you first.

“Cast your burdens on the Lord, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.” Psalm 55:22

 4. Am I spending time daily with the Lord? Once again, any relationship you are in should make you spiritually healthy. Dating should never replace your time with God.

“But seek first the kingdom of God and all His righteousness…” Matthew 6:33

Dating is not wrong.

Wanting to have a special someone to share life with is not a bad thing.

God created us for relationships. But the relationships we have with others was never intended to replace the relationship with Him.

Who’s courting you?

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